Nov 11, 2009

looking for mr darcy

Not that I've religiously read "Pride and Prejudice"; the truth is I don't exactly have the ability to comprehend such fine literature, other examples like "To Kill a Mockingbird". Really, I can't even get through the first page. Or any of Tolkien's LOTR (thank God for the films). Now you know. ;)

Yesterday, Mrs Cris and I were texting (yes, we're still high school that way) about the search of our Mr. Darcy, Dr Mcdreamy, Prince Charming (either non existent, not available, married or gay). It's such a dilemma for some, and I'm not having a "40 year old virgin" talk here.

Yes, our parents and grandparents or people 20-50 years back tied the knot in their early years, and so, as we progress, women became more independent and have theme songs like "I don't need a man" or "Single Ladies" and of course, maybe the fact that we outnumber men could be related to that as well.

My idea of a better half is not just for the sake of looking for "someone", get married, have children, live happily ever after. The focus for most is the wedding of the century, the perfect location, dress, honeymoon suite, the champagne. And it usually ends up in a cliche divorce, if you're "smart" enough, you have the pre-nuptials signed. What I'm trying to say is that, marriage these days are like business deals. Even relationships. The boy-likes-girl-vice versa is no longer that simple.

The way people "commit" into relationships is such a sad scenario like there's a limited supply. You compromise your values, your beliefs, change yourself for a person (in not a good way), lower your standards. Just like when you see the "perfect" pair of jeans, and because they sold out the size you wanted, you settled for a pair that doesn't fit you and then usually you regret buying it in the first place.

Your friend's advice like Katy Perry "Hot N Cold", you go into a relationship like you change clothes. Isn't that some "good" advice?

At the end of the day, you should listen to advice like "Butterfly Fly Away" instead.

Caterpillar in the tree
How you wonder who you'll be
Can't go far but you can always dream

Wish you may and wish you might
Don't you worry, hold on tight
I promise there will come a day
Butterfly, fly away

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